Is somebody you know in need of help?

Help a friend...

If you have read the symptoms below and a friend or family member comes to mind, it’s highly possible that this person has an eating disorder. But where do you go from here? You’re probably worried and realize all the difficulties that this person faces, but the good news is that you can help them.

First things first, talk to your friend, let’s call him Bob (this name is used as example only and is not meant to relate to any person whom you may know named Bob). You should talk to Bob about the symptoms you’ve noticed, and don’t act in an accusatory way. Show concern for Bob without getting frustrated or angry. Since Bob is already unstable, you don’t want to alarm him by making him think his friend is mad at him.

Secondly, after gently confronting Bob, find out if he is willing to seek help. Bob may have been too afraid to seek help, but now with your support he may feel more comfortable to. Try to go and see a medical expert or counselor with Bob, as they may be more knowledgeable on the subject than both of you.

However, if Bob refuses to seek help, you must turn to an authoritative figure that will get him the help that he needs. Speak to your parents, a guidance counselor, or somebody since these illnesses are very dangerous.

Thirdly, besides finding help for Bob and being the good friend that you are read up on the matter. Do the research necessary so that you can support him.

Also, to be the best supportive friend that you can be – follow these tips:

·         Try not to talk of food, weight, diets, or body shape about anybody.

·         Take notice of Bob’s eating habits, food amounts, and choices.

·         Avoid statements along the lines of "If you'd just eat (or stop working out so much), you'll get better."

·         Compliment Bob on his strengths : smile, attitude, personality, great abilities…focus on the positive

·         Avoid the topic of Bob’s physical appearance.

*Lastly, and most importantly, actually so importantly that I’m going to give this step a star: Remind Bob that you are there for him no matter what and all you want to see is him healthy and safe. And if you tell Bob that you will be there for him, be there for him. Your help matters.

Find treatments/excercises/research/help at:  http://www.something-fishy.org/treatmentfinder/ .
erica mirra